This post is inspired by a long-time friend who shared a problem. I decided to share it because it affects many people who want to change.

I’m not sure [what I want to change]. Because sometimes I aim… But in the end nothing happens… Then there’s the fear of meeting people…

This is the reply I got to from an inquiry regarding my Personal Development NLP Session. In whatever light you want to see this in, it’s a common struggle many people face. It is internal conflicts like this which hampers many from being the person they can be.

There are many ways people use to address this dilemma. While others successfully use positive and healthy means, there are people who succumb. The later resort to substances and alcohol, reckless activities that endanger themselves and people around them, or even go mad.

Through NLP Sessions, what NLP Practitioners will do is ask questions – some which you may feel weird. Good NLP Practitioners will use meta questioning models to really discover the deep rooted problem.

Let me take a possible weight loss client. When she comes to me for a weight loss session, I’ll ask her on how she feels about the goal, how would it be like if she achieved it, what happens if she doesn’t.

After covering the surface, using the meta questioning method, I’ll dive deeper. Asking more and more about emotions and memories, guiding my client to explore her subconscious.

From there, we will work on the remedy.

If this is not done, the chances of relapse are high. I reckon this would be the limitations of popular motivation: it does not address the root.